Words of wisdom from the wonderful Dennis Tirch
It's not our fault that we have such a tricky brain and were born into the families and social contexts which have shaped these innate biological potentials, leading us to be the version of ourselves we are today. These things were beyond our control and choice. They are not our fault, but we do have a responsibility to learn how to work with what arises. This is the (hard) work of compassion; to descend into the suffering of human experience with courage and a motivation to alleviate and heal the pain we will inevitably find there.