A recent substack post by psychotherapist and writer Philippa Perry explores " how early patterns of responsibility can turn into lifelong guilt" with compassionate advice for the writer about how to relinquish control, recognise her past attempts to " do an impossible task" as well as find a way to forgive herself which might be "l ess about reaching a conclusion and more about a practice" Read it in full here:

Here is a recent letter and answer to/from Philippa Perry about unresolved grief and working with frightening dreams. Here is an excerpt from Philippa's comments "I think this is unprocessed grief. When a feeling, especially a painful, frightening, or overwhelming one, is not fully put into words or images, it remains unprocessed. Feelings need expression in order to be metabolised by the mind; without that, they tend to linger or resurface. Unprocessed feelings may haunt us indirectly:...

A lovely article from Philippa Perry pushing back on the pressure of the "New Year, New You" mantra so pervasive in January. She argues that perhaps it's time to "ditch those resolutions" and writes: " The drive to be better often masks a fear of being rejected as we are. And yet learning to tolerate ourselves, is what actually allows growth to happen" Rather than giving up on change, she invites her readers to consider the motivation and process of change - is it something fuelled by a fear...